10 Tips to Parent Your Anxious Child



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You and Your Anxious Child

If you parent or care for an anxious child, you will NOT want to miss this post, or this book. As a therapist, I've worked with kids with all sorts of anxiety disorders.  From separation anxiety, OCD, social anxiety, selective mutism, all the way to PTSD.  Anxiety can manifest in various ways, and it can be vexing and perplexing to the adults whom care for youngsters dealing with it.  But have no fear, our guest poster is here.  


I'm thrilled to introduce you to our guest, Anne Marie Albano, PhD.  Dr. Albano is the author of “You and Your Anxious Child: Free Your Child from Fears and Worries and Create a Joyful Family Life” with Leslie Pepper (Avery/Penguin, 2013).  You can take a peek at the first 20 pages or so of her book here.  Be forewarned, if you parent or care for an anxious child, you will not be able to stop reading. I can almost guarantee it.  With that said, here we go:


Dr. Anne Marie Albano's 10 Tips to Parent Your Anxious Child


1.       Respect and validate your child’s feelings!  Anxiety is a real emotion and not pleasant.

2.       Teach your child deep, slow, belly breathing. This is an easy and very portable skill for self-soothing and calming.

3.       Listen to your child and ask “Tell me what you are thinking?”  This will help to reveal scary thoughts and scenes that build up in your child’s mind.

4.       Rather than swooping to reassure, ask your child “How likely is (that thing you’re afraid of) to happen?” You’ll be teaching him to challenge his anxious thinking.

5.       Prompt your child with “Tell me some things you can do to handle this situation” and help her to brainstorm, rather than just giving her solutions.  She’ll feel empowered.

6.       Give up the idea of “mental health days” “skip days” “sleep with mom nights” or other ways of avoiding feared situations.  This just makes the anxiety stick more firmly and lead to further avoidance.

7.       Encourage your child’s attempts to be brave, no matter how small they may seem to you.  Use labeled praise such as “I’m so proud of you for sleeping in your own bed last night!”

8.       Work with your child to outline small steps leading to a bigger goal.

9.       Create opportunities for your child to practice being brave and coping, and then high-five his/her efforts!

10.   Recognize when you are anxious and say aloud what you can do to calm down and solve the situation.  You’ll be modeling coping for your child, but be mindful and don’t overshare your anxiety!
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Incredible tips and a book that will really help!  
Thanks, Dr. Albano!

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Comments

naomi said…
Very useful downloadable as most parents have to deal with an anxious child at some point.
Would you still recommend her work for teens?
Hi Clare,

The concepts would work for any age, I believe!

~Wendy
buzzCus.com said…
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Ramona Ross said…
As a school psychologist another technique I have been trying are thought exchange boxes with my students. I make them and personalize them for the owner. Please check them out and contact me if you have any questions or requests.
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Ramona and buzzCus,

Thanks so much for dropping by and for sharing!

Wendy =)

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