Challenging Child? One Simple Secret
The Challenging Child
I often refer to these kids as "living large", because every feeling, every experience, every situation they seem to encounter is embraced with an intensity that most of us do not achieve, let alone understand. That intensity doesn't seem to bother us so much at some times as others, but it can become glaringly magnified when the child is experiencing anger or upset.
What Do We Do with a Kid Like This?
Many a dollar is spent to research the best way to deal with the challenges that these kids present. We observe behavior, take notes and analyze data. Billions more are spent on pharmaceuticals to try to "treat" the challenge, intensity, or "festivity" if you will. Parents and teachers furrow their brows and grit their teeth...waiting for the secret "something" that will make it all better. Sometimes there are even control groups when there's an official "study" on the topic.
The Simple Secret
Yet, one of the best ways to deal with children who are challenging costs nothing and works wonders. Best of all, there are no side effects with its use. It's been around since the dawn of humankind and is so simple it might not show up on our radar.
Somebody got it right...and here is the simple secret:
"Her magic formula for dealing with children is ignoring all faults and accentuating tiny virtues."
Now, this may raise some skepticism for some. Ignore all faults? How will these kids ever learn the error of their ways? But that is exactly where the magic in this approach lies. Truth be told, it really should be our goal to ignore as many negative traits as possible...and by shining a light on what is right...pull that child towards bigger and bigger successes.
One easy way to remember to pay attention to mostly the good things is by remembering this universal truth: Whatever you pay attention to you get more of.
Try it...you may be surprised.
PS...I'd never ask you to do anything I hadn't already tried myself! ;-)