Creating a Calm Family

Creating a Calm Family

The concept may seem foreign from where you sit right now, but a calm family is within the realm of possibilities for all of us.  Yes, that means you!  The chaos, the mayhem can all be a thing of the past.  The only secret to this is that it starts with the big people.  Oh, yes it does!

As the parents or caregivers in the home, we set the tone for what is expected, how we treat each other and the rules of engagement for conflict.  No matter where your family is in this process, I guarantee you it can get better.  You'd like that wouldn't you?  I thought so.  I've never met one family that didn't wish for more peace and a relaxed, mellow atmosphere that provides an oasis from the outside world.  

Let's get on with the business of creating a blissful life in your home.  We'll start with a few questions.

How will my life be better when my family is calm?

Action Item: List the benefits of having a calm family. At this point, don’t fret about how you’re going to get there. Just close your eyes, inhale deeply, and picture your family being calm. Write down the benefits of having a calm family.

With that picture of a calm family in mind, answer the following questions:

How do you feel? 

How do you imagine other family members will feel?

What is everyone doing?

What would your CALM family look like if someone were watching you from afar?  What do mornings look like? What about meal times?  What does bedtime look like? (Oh, yes, we are going there!  We know these are chaotic times for families!)

What could your family accomplish if things were more calm?

How would family members relate if things were more calm?

How would these changes impact the future of your family?

Stay tuned, we've got more coming with some suggestions as to how you start your journey to calm!  We'll see you real soon with those ideas!  

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Wendy Young, LMSW, BCD, is  the founder of Kidlutions and co-author of BLOOM: 50 Things to Say, Think and Do with Anxious, Angry and Over-the-Top Kids. She is the creator of numerous workbooks and resources to help from the preschool through the teen years. Follow her on Pinterest, Instagram, Twitter and Facebook! She'd love to see your smiling face there!