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Teens: Get Motivated FAST

Teens: Get Motivated
Getting the motivation to do something – whether it’s picking up your room or getting that 10-page report done for class– seems easy enough, but many teens struggle to get the motivation together to get started.
Excuses, Excuses
It's easy to come up with excuses: A friend stops by. Social media is calling your name. The task is too big. Tomorrow’s a better day to get started. Right? There are a million reasons we don’t act, but almost always the consequences of our inaction are guilt and regret.
You’ll be glad to discover that you can stop that vicious cycle of inaction and regret and become the self-motivated teen you only dreamed you could be!
Here are some tips on how to motivate yourself, even when you’ve hit a setback, are in a slump, or haven’t even begun to figure out what you want from life. Do any of those situations sound familiar?
Our FAST Plan 
We've developed a F.A.S.T. plan to help you.  We'll keep it short and sweet.
1.      Focus. Focus on just one goal at a time. Even if you’re working toward improving several areas of your life, focus on each goal separately. This helps to keep you from feeling overwhelmed and prevents you from giving up before you get started. Flush out everything else from your mind, and keep your energies focused on the one goal.
  • Develop a tunnel vision focus to tune out unimportant tasks and distractions.
2.      Assume success. Imagine yourself reaching your goal. Believe it. See it. Do it!
  • Envision yourself with that "A", with the part in the play you wanted, or on the sports team you desire!
3.      Start small. Determine the tasks necessary to reach your goal. Now divide these tasks into a series of smaller tasks. Continue this process until you’ve obtained tasks that you know you can accomplish. It’s like bite-size chunks. When the chunks are small enough, you know you won’t be biting off more than you can chew at one time!
  • Attaining many small goals on your way to the big goal keeps you happy and motivated with constant successes.
4.      Tell people about your goals. By telling people about your goal, you are making a pact that you will follow-through. Tell your friends, family and coworkers to energize your motivation.
Telling other people about your goals commits you further to accomplishing it. It's a bold move to tell people what you plan on doing, as it gives you accountability.
Make It Happen!
Those four easy steps will have you closing in on your goals than if you had no plan at all.  Stick to it and don't give up.  When you reach one goal, set your sights on the next! You've got this!
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