Until the Sun Comes Out Again: Weathering Emotional Storms with Your Child
It Doesn't Last Forever
A mere few weeks ago I was huddled up and gazing outside at the swirling wind, swaying branches and falling snow (yes, really!) That day reminded me that the weather in the Michigan's Upper Peninsula can be a lot like a child's behavior. Sometimes unpredictable, sometimes unexpected, but it never lasts forever! That is the beauty of it. There's a saying amongst we Yoopers that goes, "If you don't like the weather, wait a few hours!" It will change.
When we are dealing with challenging behavior, we need to keep that in mind, too.
It doesn't last forever!
It may provide us with some moments of frustration, inconvenience, and perhaps a few headaches. But our child's misbehavior isn't really about us. Any more than the weather is.
Caution: SLOW DOWN!
On that particular day, I had to leave the warmth of my home to pick my daughter up from a get-together with friends. It was a long drive...in bad weather...and the roads were slippery. I had to adjust for that. I went slower, I took my time. Because getting home safely was the goal.
When our kids are really challenging, we need to prepare for that, as well. We need to make adjustments. We need to slow down, to take our time. Just like we do for the weather.
Wishing you blue skies and sunshine as you parent...but most of all, I wish you the ability to see through the emotional storms...and to provide your child with a safe harbor...until the sun comes out again. And it always does.
Spin-Doctor Tip: Some emotional storms come about because a child does not have the skills to deal with intense emotions like upset and anger. There is MUCH a parent or caregiver can do help support such children and teach them better coping skills. We'll tell you all about it in our ANGER TOOLBOX FOR KIDS. Hope to see you there!
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